This personality type includes individuals who present to others a docile, dependent and conforming personality, either genuine or feigned in order to “pull” leadership, affiliation, nurturance and tender care. These types of individuals may also use such a personality strategy because they want to avoid interactions with others that provoke, require or include hostility, aggression, independence, autonomoy, self-confidence and power.

This personality type is a good example of a common personality type that would visit a doctors office because the doctor-patient relationship is filled with dependency implications. In some cases, the patient may be exaggerating their “illness” solely to provoke or pull the doctor into reacting in a nurturant, concerned and helpful manner that offers security.

In extreme cases these individuals may express sheer helplessness, uncertainty, freightened affect, hopelessness, severe lack of autonomy and dependent passive submission to others. Additionally, many phobias may be a result of this defensive personality strategy manifested in its extreme form; as fears typically imply weakness and helplessness which in turn typically pulls help and support from others. The general message sent by this set of behavior patterns is “I am a weak, stressed, anxious and unhappy person in need of your help, advice and direction”. At this point we can see how the dependent-docile personality “matches” (is the inverse) the autocraic-managerial personality, as the former is most comfortable in a position of docile dependence following the latter who is most comfortable when leading docile-dependent followers. It is important to note and recognize the “match” or “inverse” that goes along with these personality types as the theory implies all interaction is a push-pull game consisting of everyone applying personality strategies that through genetics and experience prove to be most “practical” (sometimes not most effecient, only effecient in healthy balanced individuals) for warding off or avoiding inter-personal anxiety and in this “matching” or “inverse” format, with a diagram, personality types, traits and states can be correlated and plotted within a diagram so as to create an empirical objective source for understanding personality.

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